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The Questions You Need to Ask Your Partner before Marriage

Updated: Oct 21

When we think about meeting someone, falling in love, and settling down, we rarely consider one of the possible outcomes of marriage: divorce. Unfortunately, divorce is a reality in some relationships. But there's a fine line between realism and scare tactics because divorce happens doesn't mean it has to happen to you. While you can't stop life from getting in the way (and unexpected barriers and obstacles from appearing), you can make your relationship as strong as possible in order to withstand them. And, ideally, this begins long before you marry. Asking the right questions can set you up for a successful marriage and help you avoid divorce.



What are the questions you need to ask your partner before marriage?


This questionnaire will help you and your partner to know each other better. It will help you to identify the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship. You can use this questionnaire as a guide for questions to ask at the wedding.


  • How do you feel about children?

  • What is your opinion on marriage?

  • What are your thoughts on sex before marriage?

  • Do you like pets?

  • What is your idea of a perfect date?

  • What are the qualities that make up a good spouse or partner in general?


Questions You Should Never Ask Your Partner Before Marriage


A lot of people want to know if their spouse is cheating on them. But, before you ask these questions, think about the answers you might get and how they might impact your relationship. If you are wondering if your partner is cheating on you, it is important to first consider why you are having doubts in the first place. Once you have identified a potential cause for suspicion, there are some questions that can be useful to ask your partner in order to clarify the situation. Below are some common queries that may help answer your question:


  • Do I make you feel appreciated?

  • Are we having enough sex?

  • Is there someone else?


Questions To Ask Your Partner Before The Wedding


There are many things that couples can ask each other before their wedding. Some of them are about the wedding ceremony, some about their future life together and some about their past. The list of questions can be as varied as the couple themselves but there are some questions that should be on everyone’s list:


  • What are your financial goals, and how can we work together to achieve them?

  • Do You Want Kids, and What Would We Do If We Couldn't Get Pregnant?

  • What Are Your Sexual Expectations?

  • What Are Your Fantasies Surrounding Marriage?

  • What Is the Meaning of Marriage to You?

  • How Should We Handle Our In-Laws?


There are many questions to ask before you get married, but the most important one is what will happen if we get divorced. If you have children, it’s even more important to discuss this.


Questions To Ask Your Partner After The Wedding


One of the most important aspects of our married lives that we must not overlook is communication. The more we communicate with one another, the more we will learn about one another. This will assist us in responding to our spouse's needs, desires, and wants. Don't take your spouse for granted in your marriage. Learn to ask pertinent questions at each stage. Here are 5 questions to get you started:


  • In general, how am I doing as a husband/wife?

  • What two things would you like to see change about me?

  • How can we improve or take our intimacy to the next level?

  • What three wishes would you like to make for our future?

  • What are some of the ways you would like to see our finances improve?


The idea of divorce-proofing your marriage is a lot like the idea of getting an A on an exam. It's only possible to get an A or D grade, and there is no way to guarantee that you will get the grade you want without some extra effort. However, with a little extra effort, it's possible to give your marriage the best chance of survival and thriving. Talking about these big issues before you get married and making sure your needs, wants, and expectations all line up can help you start married life on the right foot. When in doubt, communicate by asking questions, listening, and actually discussing. It's the quickest way around any obstacle.

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